Are the parents being a true part of their children’s lives?
Anytime we have a child shot down in the city of New Orleans, the parents are always blaming someone else for the reason that their child was murdered. They never consider that not monitoring what is going on in that child’s life and being a part of it may have been responsible for this tragedy. Maybe if they had made that child go to school, or not be associated with a certain people that they knew were leading that child in the wrong direction, the bad things would not have happened.
Parents today want to love their children too much and not create any animosity or family tension. Before we had all of this child psychology and friendly parenting, the children were not killing themselves.
Coming directly to the point, years ago kids had their fights but the outcome was very different. They would have their fights, it would end and either the children would remain friends and get along with each other or they would not. They would never leave, go home, or go to their stash, get a gun and return and shoot the winner of the fight. In those days we would never have a boy lose a fight, go home, tell his mother about his lost and his mother would give him a gun and tell him to go get even.
The majority of the problems we are having today is the responsibility of the parents. Or should I say the negligence of the parent or parents because I have known men that do not want anyone, and that includes teachers, ministers, or any person of authority telling his or her child what to do or what not to do. They instill in their children a sense of rebellion which the child possesses throughout life. And may I state, passes on to his or her children.
These lenient parents give their children a free pass to try to escape from reality and be above the law when it comes to the life of another human being. You and I have seen and heard of young adults that wouldn’t give a plugged nickle for the life of another. They would just as soon take a gun and shoot their enemy as to take the time to negotiate, in what you may call a diplomatic manner, a peaceful solution to his problem. A long time ago it was called, “Turning the other cheek.”
So my request is for each and everyone take it upon yourselves to try, at least a little to be a little hard on your children. Don’t tell them that everything that they do is good. Let them know that you don’t approve of their every action. That talking back to the teacher will not be accepted.
Let’s put it this way. We are allowed to have our disputes with whomever we have them. We live for the moment and then we get over it and go on with life. Our life and we don’t take the other person’s.